“What did you do today?”. . . . it’s a question that every stay at home mama hears. On a good day, it means how was your day? Buuuuuut, on a bad day, it can mean a number of negative things: why isn’t more done, why is this place a mess, what’s going on with the crazy kids? I’ve learned the hard way that the second method of negative interpretation can really be my own attitude taking over and making me doubt my abilities. Who doesn’t, this mommy thing is a tough job!
This week has been a doozy–the girls have been sick off and on, my husband’s been working longer hours, and I’m in the first trimester of pregnancy so exhausted doesn’t even cover what I’m feeling. So, the other day I decided I would take a closer look at my day and look at what i really DID get done. Rather than looking at the mess, I’d look at the things I accomplished. So, for those of you wondering (hello husband), here are just a few things I did today!
- I managed to unload and load the dishwasher with 4 extra, little, “helping” hands. As those with littles know, that also means I caught dropping plates, stopped little legs from crawling in and on the dishwasher, pulled clean silverware out of mouths and placed in the dishwasher to be rewashed, and eventually got everything in drawers (even things that had been pulled out that didn’t start in the dishwasher).
- I kept this little lady from jumping off the bottom 2 stairs about a million times, and helped both little ladies practice crawling up and down those same 2 stairs (as well as the rest behind the gate) at least a dozen more times. Time for me to start wearing my fitbit again because I guarantee you I get miles on those stairs alone!
- I washed and folded two loads of laundry with those same “helpers”. That means I refolded and resorted piles at least 3 times–so really, the equivalent of at least 5 loads of laundry I’d say.
- I caused any number of meltdowns by saying “no-no” or “let’s play with something else” and then distracted and redirected each meltdown. On this particular day the floor vents were hot ticket items to pick up and try to climb into (note to self–more baby proofing needed).
- I keep forgetting I did the “normal” things required to function too. I made a dinner that can be thrown in the oven quickly as my husband walks in the door and the girls hit witching hour. All that goes into changing and clothing 2 wiggly babies, including a number of diapers that seem to get dirty right after I’ve put on a new one. And, finally, feeding these nuggets and myself–I had NO IDEA I’d spend so much time cutting up small pieces of food and have to fight to find time to feed myself.
What I didn’t get photos of because I was too busy having fun and living in the moment with my girls: ALL the HUGS, SNUGGLES, LEARNING through play, and LOVE!!
When I look back at this list & the fact that we’re all alive, smiling, and happy when my husband walks in the door I’d say it was a pretty productive day. So if he asks “What did you do today?” I’m hoping I don’t tear myself down and interpret it for what he means: how was your day? More importantly I hope I remember not to doubt my abilities on the bad days.